No Sex Marriage - Masturbation, Loneliness, Cheating and Shame | Maureen McGrath | TEDxStanleyPark

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  • 5/07/2016 को प्रकाशित
  • Love? Marriage? Sex? Can a married couple have all three? Perhaps it’s unrealistic since so many marriages end in divorce today. Why is that? One reason might be that a reported 20% of all marriages are sexless and that number is rising. Why have we lost the lust in our marriages? Is it technology, is it trust? More importantly, how can we “get back at it” in our marriages today?
    Maureen McGrath - nursetalk@hotmail.com - hosts the Sunday Night Sex Show on News Talk 980 CKNW. She is a Registered Nurse, Sex Educator and author of “Sex & Health".
    This talk was given at a TEDx event using the TED conference format but independently organized by a local community. Learn more at ted.com/tedx

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  • Murray westenskow
    Murray westenskow साल पहले +5753

    I once asked a 94 year old woman if she was lonely living alone - she said - there are a lot worse things than living alone - and one of them is living with a person you don't like.

    • Pam Gray
      Pam Gray दिन पहले

      Or who doesn't like you.

    • Karen Windill
      Karen Windill 9 दिन पहले

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    • Deepa Narayanan
      Deepa Narayanan 16 दिन पहले

      @motiverende sitater lucky you

    • AngelsCiti
      AngelsCiti 18 दिन पहले +1

      @Zee Best sometimes beautiful women get tons of offers - from guys they don’t seem at all attractive unfortunately and since women aren’t like most males, they don’t sleep around just to sleep around with whatever creature. I personally need to like what I eat sorry

    • Debbie King
      Debbie King महीने पहले

      Touche

  • wranglerboi
    wranglerboi साल पहले +806

    WOW, Maureen! You described my marriage to perfection. I did all the cooking and housework and child care (6 kids) PLUS worked 50 hours a week. But any time I wanted "time" with her, she was "too tired," "too busy with something." or just "not interested." And then after 11 years SHE left me, saying I never did anything with/for her! To top it off, the day after the divorce was finalized by the court, she married the guy she'd been seeing the whole time. Sexless marriage? More a thoughtless, uncaring marriage, I would say.

    • Amy Pathak
      Amy Pathak 6 दिन पहले

      Wow your marriage is the exact same as mine amazing at 2 different ppl but same sort of relationship sorry 😞 u went through tht

    • Rachelle Mboumba
      Rachelle Mboumba 7 दिन पहले

      I 777

    • Kenneth Ketchum
      Kenneth Ketchum 23 दिन पहले

      You should have hired a PI to investigate or teach the kids the spy tradecraft while having your wife under surveillance with the kids Teach them how to prepare for adulthood by spying in their mother. you blew that one.

    • Shahid
      Shahid महीने पहले

      How did you get 6 kids? My god have mercy on you ..

    • Asma J.
      Asma J. महीने पहले

      You mean to tell you carried the WHOLE relationship on your back for 11yrs?? You were the catch. I hope people learn from your mistakes, most women will not be loyal to a man that does EVERYTHING for them.

  • Jeff Mwangi
    Jeff Mwangi 4 महीने पहले +649

    "Men in a sexless marriage cheat to remain in that marriage, Women cheat to get out of it". Profound.

    • Randy Cooper
      Randy Cooper 5 दिन पहले

      @Cheryl Ween Yes. I get it ..it's a bit confusing. Did you at least get the part where two of what used to be an Aunt & an Uncle turned out to be CHEATERS (with one another). The children that they had while still married into my family (which are my cousins) were devastated by the breakup of their parents & let's just say ..didn't fare too well. But never mind all that ...I've come to realize that all the excuses you have made have come from the prospective of ...the cheater. Someone you knew cheated repeatedly but ultimately settled down into a much longer sustained relationship..with NO MORE CHEATING. Another example you give is of TWO CHEATERS who together & everything turned out just fine. You see ..your always wondering how the Chester's life worked out, nevermind the pain they leaving in their wake because of their infidelity! I'll tell you what: Whether you are married ..or single ...go ahead ac and tell either your spouse or any potential future spouse that you think cheating is just fine & dandy and see what happens. You'll either agree to live in an "open marriage" where the two of you just "swing" it all over town ...or your spouse will tuck tail & run. Good luck!

    • Cheryl Ween
      Cheryl Ween 5 दिन पहले

      @Randy Cooper that's hard for me to understand.

    • Randy Cooper
      Randy Cooper 6 दिन पहले

      @Cheryl Ween Iused to have 2 sets of "Aunts & Uncles". The woman & man who were not "blood related" (married into the family) divorced the "blood kin" family members who weren't....and got married. That's right ..I use to have cousins who are now "step" brothers & sisters! IT TOTALLY SCREWD THEM UP! Two of them are now dead due to a lifetime of drug abuse, one has spent many years in prison (for the same reason), but a couple of them were able to get on and live productive lives (seemingly). NONE OF THEM have had loving relationships with their X-parents ...none of them. But hey ....at least the cheating couple have been happy for all these years! (or are they?)

    • Cheryl Ween
      Cheryl Ween 6 दिन पहले

      @Randy Cooper I met a married couple who started their relationship when they were both married to other people; they were neighbours, in fact. They appeared to have a happy marriage because the wife was sick with MS and her husband cared for her.

    • Randy Cooper
      Randy Cooper 6 दिन पहले

      @Cheryl Ween They deserve each other.

  • OldWeeb
    OldWeeb 10 महीने पहले +255

    I am leaving a 17-year sexless marriage because she just 'did not have time for it'. She worked a part-time job at 15 hours a week but seemed to be busy quite often and 'fall asleep' when I would come to bed. I gave 100% into the marriage and she put 0% into the marriage, concentrating on what she wanted instead of our relationship.
    She is still angry I filed for divorce. I am past caring. It is time to find someone who will love me and not just use my resources.

    • Harsh Tiwari
      Harsh Tiwari 4 दिन पहले

      @Triggered Andy 🕷 hey I'm from India ❤️, in India we cannot file for Dirvoce easily because of society issue . What a men can do if he is not allowed to file for a Dirvoce ???he is not want to live in a Sexless marriage ???

    • Triggered Andy 🕷
      Triggered Andy 🕷 16 दिन पहले +1

      I'm a female going through the same thing. Im happy for you 😁

    • Mike Adams
      Mike Adams 2 महीने पहले +2

      If she’s not getting it from you she’s getting it from someone else. Good for you getting out mate

    • OldWeeb
      OldWeeb 2 महीने पहले +2

      @flowerpower no couples counseling, it wouldn’t have worked anyways. She would never admit that anything she said or did lead to the marriage failing. I made many mistakes and take responsibility for it, she wouldn’t.

    • flowerpower
      flowerpower 2 महीने पहले

      @OldWeeb I was thinking of couples counseling, but im glad for you. Wish you the best

  • Lisa H.
    Lisa H. 2 महीने पहले +118

    Not always the women. My ex was always tired, busy, "not tonight" ,etc ... as a woman I was embarrassed to talk about this for years because I thought. When I finally discussed it with friends, I discovered many of my girlfriends were experiencing the same thing. It's not always just the women.

    • Cee Cee Cooper
      Cee Cee Cooper 8 दिन पहले +1

      Very true!!!

    • Take A Look At Yourself
      Take A Look At Yourself 20 दिन पहले +1

      There's always that person pointing to the uno reverse card

    • Progress every day
      Progress every day महीने पहले +2

      Not always but almost always 😬

    • Rodrigo Santillan
      Rodrigo Santillan महीने पहले +3

      For whatever reason it seem that we end up mariing the wrong partner in was like a dog after my wife

    • Anonymous Slave
      Anonymous Slave महीने पहले +18

      Just 99% of the time it is the woman.

  • blanckieification
    blanckieification साल पहले +7442

    "I used to think that the worst thing in life was to end up alone, it's not. The worst thing in life is to end up with people that make you feel alone" - Robin Williams

  • Triggered Andy 🕷
    Triggered Andy 🕷 16 दिन पहले +40

    This happens to women too. I'm in a sexless marriage, the amount of pain and rejection is unbearable. I thought things would get better, it's been 10 years. 😥

    • toothpaste man
      toothpaste man 3 दिन पहले

      @Tienie du Toit well that doesn't sound like good advice although it's not exactly like would know what good advice is

    • Tienie du Toit
      Tienie du Toit 9 दिन पहले +1

      Get out now. Don't let that happen with you I'm in 46 years won't gebetter just bumd him.

    • geeta kommu
      geeta kommu 9 दिन पहले +1

      Same here

  • Elessar Telcontar
    Elessar Telcontar साल पहले +506

    I was married for 28 years and those were four of the best years of my life!

    • Sofia Santoro Kirk
      Sofia Santoro Kirk 2 दिन पहले

      @John Mininger surely it depends how you look at your 'realtionship' I'm sure you actually have common ground when it comes to moving forward 🤔 have to discussed this? 💜

    • John Mininger
      John Mininger 19 दिन पहले

      @Irum Malik - Well, things changed quickly. Shortly after I commented, her mom got sick and now she lives with her mom in another state, taking care of her. My youngest daughter finished the school year with me and then moved to stay with her mom. My oldest daughter has her own place attending college close to me. So now for the immediate future, I am on my own. I see my oldest daughter every couple of weeks but aside from that, nobody talks to me unless they need something. Pretty much ghosted. I'm ok though, plenty to keep me busy.

    • Irum Malik
      Irum Malik 20 दिन पहले

      @John Mininger seven months later, what’s the update.
      Just asking because I’m in a very similar situation- only 6 years in though

    • D.R. John
      D.R. John 2 महीने पहले

      Lmao 🤣 🤣 🤣 🤣 🤣 🤣 🤣 🤣 🤣

    • Note 2020
      Note 2020 3 महीने पहले

      ​@Burr Anderson ​Love brings addiction and is too sad ​but see it as a part of your life - journey to see life from a higher level and engage with it. A new window of light will certainly open to you if you allow it to happen even if sometimes you feel guilty, you are protected for your good heart.

  • Madonna Hagedorn
    Madonna Hagedorn साल पहले +202

    All of it is true. Ending up in a sexless marriage is very lonely. Falling so in love, having a healthy relationship in the beginning and then nothing as time goes on can make a person fall into a depression. Marriage without passion is an empty place to be.

    • Adebayo Osesusi
      Adebayo Osesusi 2 महीने पहले

      Sexless marriage albeit loneliness is more dangerous

    • Melyssa Mefford
      Melyssa Mefford 3 महीने पहले +4

      @Madonna Hagedorn truth. We’ve been together for 6 years - we haven’t been intimate in 2. I don’t want anyone else; I want THIS man that wants no part of me intimately. We are best friends and have a wonderful relationship outside of that - but living with this secret day in and day out has turned me into someone who hates herself.

    • Lumiya_Lumos
      Lumiya_Lumos 3 महीने पहले +6

      @Freya778 I am in the process of doing so now or moving in with my life. I won’t start out a marriage in a bad place, that’s not wise and I know it.

    • Freya778
      Freya778 3 महीने पहले +9

      @Lumiya_Lumos Please work on resolving the issues in your relationship before you get married.

    • Lumiya_Lumos
      Lumiya_Lumos 3 महीने पहले +7

      Well said. I’m only engaged and this is what I am feeling. It has me thinking a lot about if this is something I can live with for the rest of my life.

  • The unchosen one
    The unchosen one साल पहले +331

    "Only about 7% of married couples set the sheets ablaze."
    That hit deep, its powerful...

    • chris532008
      chris532008 4 महीने पहले +4

      that high?

    • nahoga
      nahoga 5 महीने पहले +1

      WOOOOOW

    • Ömer Atayilmaz
      Ömer Atayilmaz 7 महीने पहले +1

      @Chris Buesnell KASDKKASDKKXAKD

    • Chris Buesnell
      Chris Buesnell 7 महीने पहले +19

      We wash our sheets. Silly to burn them.

  • Randall Huston
    Randall Huston 2 साल पहले +3596

    There is no more lonely feeling in the world than being needed for what you can provide and being unwanted for who you are.

    • Jamie Barr
      Jamie Barr 6 दिन पहले

      @L Lee what was his hidden agenda

    • Jennifer Tracy Kessler
      Jennifer Tracy Kessler 20 दिन पहले

      Without doubt, I could not have stated this better myself. Bullseye!

    • Tony Higgins
      Tony Higgins 29 दिन पहले

      Well said

    • Soul Fist
      Soul Fist महीने पहले

      You just described being a man

    • Onder Hassan
      Onder Hassan 2 महीने पहले

      That's modern marriage for men in a nutshell. You're only good for security but nothing more.

  • Sara White
    Sara White 2 महीने पहले +170

    Been married 19 years and we still do it 3-4x a week. I can’t get enough of my husband. Ever. Give it to me every day. Love it.

    • James Bonnell
      James Bonnell 2 दिन पहले

      Wow. Congratulations. That's fantastic. (Not sarcasm, glad for you both).

    • Jaydee
      Jaydee 10 दिन पहले +1

      Lucky lady

    • Rebecca Lalthanmawii
      Rebecca Lalthanmawii 11 दिन पहले

      @Sara White j

    • MisterUrbanWorld
      MisterUrbanWorld 24 दिन पहले +3

      33 years old, and NEVER done it. Get on my level

  • Richard Silva
    Richard Silva साल पहले +227

    You had me up until 21:09, sure at times it is impossible to avoid thoughts and even fantasies of someone other than your SO/Spouse, but it is important to avoid these thoughts that can be played out in ones mind because we all know fantasies with such a big pay off with passionate feel good results will indeed affect you and will often tempt to move into virtual contact which as you discussed will lead into a physical one. What I am saying is always protect your thoughts, because thoughts do often lead into actions.

    • Bill Cook
      Bill Cook 3 महीने पहले

      @IcedTea Games Not at all. Fantasies come from the heart. They are what led to the relationship. Devotion doesn't arrest our hearts.

    • Jukeboksi
      Jukeboksi 3 महीने पहले

      @IcedTea Games How is it not true in your honest opinion? Cause ”Not true” says nothing to nobody. You do realize this, don’t you?

    • IcedTea Games
      IcedTea Games 3 महीने पहले

      @Jukeboksi not true

    • IcedTea Games
      IcedTea Games 3 महीने पहले +3

      @Bill Cook you are married to the wrong person if you feel the need to fantasize outside the relationship

    • joseph onuh
      joseph onuh 3 महीने पहले

      Very true!

  • Kevin Murray
    Kevin Murray साल पहले +85

    I am married and absolutely happy and satisfied in every sense of the word. The bottom line is, be with someone who you are compatible with. Stop looking for someone you are not.

    • Kevin Murray
      Kevin Murray साल पहले +11

      @Luigi R.lol, your assumption is correct. She is an adorable wife. The truth is, change is inevitable. So is growth. However, as she grows physically and otherwise, her true self and inner beauty remain. That's what makes the difference. She is still the same person I fell in love with and our love keeps growing STRONGER as the days go by. What we do as a couple is that we keep dating, we plan weekly and monthly activities, publicly affirm and support each other's goals and aspirations, and keep the fire burning etc. Be honest and transparent, communicate and commit to each other. That's what works for us. Be blessed!

    • Luigi R.
      Luigi R. साल पहले +1

      question : as the years ago by...do you see your wife (I am assuming is a wife) as pretty as you did the first day? if not, how has your "love" changed? I have always wondered if couples truly in love see each other as beautiful as the first date?

  • David
    David साल पहले +88

    This video is very powerful and true to the core of relationships between 2 people, partners. Wake up everyone before you loose your love ones. ❤️

    • Richard Sorge
      Richard Sorge 3 महीने पहले +1

      Direi esattamente il contrario: scappate in fretta da una relazione dove non c'è passione. Quando la passione finisce, la storia deve finire. Punto. Non vorrei vivere un secondo accanto una persona che non si infiamma quanto io mi infiammo per lei.

    • Gunn
      Gunn 10 महीने पहले

      Loose?

    • Maureen McGrath
      Maureen McGrath साल पहले +1

      Thank you David.

  • Net Worth
    Net Worth 2 साल पहले +2450

    After 39 years of marriage, I find myself to have a strong desire for my wife. I find her far more interesting at 58 than I found her to be at 19 when we first met. At times it is a struggle to connect just due to so many things going on, but it is all about the commitment. As the husband, I cook, clean, shop and take care of the house. The fact that my wife is not exhausted all the time really helps. In the long run it is a partnership with give and take.

    • eliana Aristizabal
      eliana Aristizabal 11 दिन पहले

      I wish more men thought like you

    • Crystal thow
      Crystal thow 28 दिन पहले

      Thank you for sharing this

    • Dungeons and Dragons
      Dungeons and Dragons महीने पहले

      @B T og

    • V
      V महीने पहले

      @William Johnson But if a woman were to take this role of house upkeep you would applaud her.

  • Trang Nguyen
    Trang Nguyen 11 महीने पहले +60

    Amazing talk! Now I know why I felt alone during marriage that two years later ended with a divorce. Better know this talk earlier to know to “enjoy” it more and pay attention to the partner more. Amazing talk! Thank you!

    • Richard Pauly
      Richard Pauly 5 महीने पहले +1

      Your a pretty woman maybe he cheated you probably shouldn't have gotten married you don't need to be married it just a piece of paper you can be with someone

  • Amber Frank Natural Hair Educator
    Amber Frank Natural Hair Educator दिन पहले

    Love this!! So enlightening. Puts so much into perspective.

  • Tonya Wms
    Tonya Wms साल पहले +51

    I hated being involved in an emotionally & physically draining relationship. This stuff is true.

  • Riled Mouse
    Riled Mouse साल पहले +402

    16:45 The idea that men cheat to stay in a marriage and women cheat to leave one is really profound and I don’t think we talk enough about it.

    • Scarlet  Lady
      Scarlet Lady 3 महीने पहले +3

      I cheat to stay in a marriage and I’m a woman…some women are in horrible marriages but stay because of the kids ( like me)…..women and men are not that different, it just depends on your own experience

    • Literal News Headlines
      Literal News Headlines 4 महीने पहले +1

      That’s not profound, cause often it does not hold true.

    • Stosi1 Weza
      Stosi1 Weza 5 महीने पहले +3

      Very true

    • Richard Pauly
      Richard Pauly 5 महीने पहले +5

      Cheating is cheating don't get married then be together but don't be married.

  • Elo Achado
    Elo Achado साल पहले +16

    Excelente palestra, ainda bem que tem legenda em português!

  • Paya So
    Paya So महीने पहले +7

    If you're getting nowhere with your partner, and you are just over it, tell them. Propose parting ways. If they want to make it work, agree on a schedule, and honor it. If they can't change, don't look back. Happiness is out there. You aren't getting any younger.

  • Sharonimouks
    Sharonimouks 10 महीने पहले +34

    I so enjoyed watching this, she spoke well with a relaxed tone. Many are not sensitive enough to understand the dynamics of both sexes. It's better to be single and alone, than being alone in marriage

    • Sharonimouks
      Sharonimouks 7 महीने पहले

      @Barsham Nope. I married the best man alive. But how many can say same

    • Barsham
      Barsham 7 महीने पहले

      Well that comes down to choices, you married the wrong person.

  • Reuben Jhon
    Reuben Jhon 6 महीने पहले +5

    👏👏👏👏👏 love how so honest and truthful You simplify these matters for us to understand.thank you for presenting these issues in a world where people are lost for answers.

  • Jesse Peterson
    Jesse Peterson 3 साल पहले +14951

    Being with someone that makes you feel alone, is worse than actually being alone.

    • Zuzanna Wisniewska
      Zuzanna Wisniewska 21 दिन पहले

      Yes. Agree...

    • julie
      julie 2 महीने पहले

      Especially when to add insult to injury, they con you out of 11k. You realise too late and could kick yourself 'cos you feel you have inadvertently rewarded the for denying your needs.

    • Laila Jameson
      Laila Jameson साल पहले

      @Will Seest Yes, it is, and the weirdest thing is that I've noticed is SEEMINGLY distinct patterns of types of behaviors with the types of people we each pick, among people I've known, friends.. At least for some people. Either that or we elicit the same behaviors out of people around us, but it is very clearly a pattern, a repeated choice,it looks like, for many people that have had many relationships. Just something that looks very obviously to be the case.

    • Will Seest
      Will Seest साल पहले +1

      How does someone pick that person in the first place is the real question?

    • Laila Jameson
      Laila Jameson साल पहले

      👍! Id Drink to that, if I wasn't sober! So, many types of dysfunctions can cause that on either part and it usually ends up that both are doing it.. Sad!!

  • Tototeody Chui
    Tototeody Chui 11 महीने पहले +27

    You hit it bullseye, you explained it well. Thank you, I am sure you've helped a lot of people who were able to watch this. Keep it up. I was just watching on youtube but I could not stop clapping my hands.

  • Hal 9000
    Hal 9000 साल पहले +83

    People expect each other to be a certain way, we try to control each other to be a certain, the resentment begins & the love ends.
    Do the opposite, don’t ever hurt the person you love & you can have a happy marriage for the rest of your life.

    • Hal 9000
      Hal 9000 3 महीने पहले +2

      There’s so much more to it than that & it’s not easy, but after years of knowing how & why not to even raise your voice, not try to control & allow the other person to live their life, their way… It can work.

    • Mickey Cohen
      Mickey Cohen 3 महीने पहले +4

      Yesss! Nailed it. This can also be summed up as respect. Something often overlooked in marriage.

    • Annie F.
      Annie F. साल पहले

      A-men. I shut off the talk because I didn't like her straight away. Instead I read through the comments. Good one :)

  • Lovely Redhead
    Lovely Redhead साल पहले +63

    I grew to love my husband when I got married in my 20s. I already cared for him deeply, but I wasn’t so sure if it was love - but it became love through the years..Then when he started fooling around when he traveled, it totally broke my heart. I had really grown to love this man. When he started fooling around on the road I knew it I could tell by our phone conversations and he never lied to me, but then when he started fooling around when he got home as well, that was the end of our marriage.That killed our marriage. We were together for 15 years. I liked being married, but I had hoped for the two of us to be on the same page . “Two of us against the world,” not me fighting for us by myself .

    • Just Megs
      Just Megs 3 महीने पहले

      Geez that certainly would kill a marriage. How disappointing. They take the best years of our life don’t they? We would have been better off by ourselves.

    • Robert Fisher
      Robert Fisher 10 महीने पहले

      Thats rearly sad you didn't deserve that all them years you put into the relationship. Unfortunately some times people men and women think the grass is greener on the other side .yes it is some times and no its not .but I think its something that will never change in life .I just hope you move on and land up finding someone and your life will be picture perfect .

    • Jorge Hernandez
      Jorge Hernandez साल पहले +3

      Why did you get married if you didn't know that you loved him?? When you live as close as you do in a marriage, that shows, you know, and it's hard to shake for the spouse who catches wind of it.

  • Rev. Terry Case
    Rev. Terry Case साल पहले +46

    This was my problem!!!!!!
    "I used to think that the worst thing in life was to end up alone, it's not. The worst thing in life is to end up with people that make you feel alone"

  • Zeeshan Dogar
    Zeeshan Dogar साल पहले +76

    Marriage is one of those things in life you regret not doing, and regret equally for doing.

    • A A
      A A साल पहले +1

      😂 true 🥲

  • manoa aiyub
    manoa aiyub साल पहले +11

    Very important conversation, held rightly, ended rightly. Congrats Dr.

  • Cybernaut13
    Cybernaut13 साल पहले +30

    The speaker is right about abuse. It's painful. Nobody can bear the weight of a ton on their shoulders.

  • Edison Mapimbana
    Edison Mapimbana महीने पहले +1

    Am convinced beyond any doubt that this is one of the best speech I have heard so far. Thank you Maureen for making it so short ,sweet and funny 😄. I want more of this sort please. Can you direct me to the well there of

  • Kirk DiRubio
    Kirk DiRubio 2 साल पहले +532

    Being married for 25 years I can pass on this chunk of wisdom. Two people working together as a team can bring rewards beyond explanation. Give each other space to be individuals.

    • Bald Eagle
      Bald Eagle 3 महीने पहले +1

      well my parents hated each other, sometimes my mom would scream at my dad for 4 or 5 hours at a time.
      marriage is no guarantee and the divorce rate is 50%. in 2022, most people are narcissistic and selfish, not worth giving up your freedom for

    • Emmanuel Daniel Onyekachi
      Emmanuel Daniel Onyekachi 4 महीने पहले +1

      Hmmm

    • mediacenter man
      mediacenter man 7 महीने पहले

      You can achieve that without getting married. If you want to live in a sexless marriage have at it.

    • Kirk DiRubio
      Kirk DiRubio 2 साल पहले

      @joe b LOL

    • joe b
      joe b 2 साल पहले

      BS

  • craft world
    craft world साल पहले +9

    You, Maureen, said it! Interesting and useful info sharing. Your presentation is also awesome!

  • Gary Lefebvre
    Gary Lefebvre 11 महीने पहले +25

    Living with someone who always makes you feel like you are alone doesn’t always result in an early death and/or dying of said sadness & loneliness; it can also turn you into a monster who maliciously preys and feeds on and off-of the life-force of others in order to get-off alternatively. I don’t know why she didn’t mention this negative side-effect which can occur in some individuals? 🤷‍♂️

    • Tha Suki Sonya H Sone
      Tha Suki Sonya H Sone 8 महीने पहले +1

      Cause that dealing with abnormal negative psychosis more so along the nature of mental illness ... Not of a human mind within the normal boundaries of nature. Such as the union of 2 ppl as god meant the union to be in the 1st place.

  • rickyteee
    rickyteee साल पहले +170

    I never knew what loneliness is till I got married.

    • V
      V महीने पहले +2

      @Composite Studios Ask her why she’s changed.

    • Composite Studios
      Composite Studios 4 महीने पहले +6

      Very true and powerful statement, unfortunately for me am newly married, my wife changed the first week we got married, it’s like am married to a stranger, she’s moody, never talks,

    • Sara Matthews
      Sara Matthews 7 महीने पहले +1

      Damn

    • UseMyVoice2010
      UseMyVoice2010 10 महीने पहले +4

      Wow! That a powerfully sad statement.

    • Geralt of Rivia __W.W.
      Geralt of Rivia __W.W. साल पहले +6

      very sadd.

  • Shirley Langton
    Shirley Langton साल पहले +38

    Maureen, I really enjoyed your talk. It was informative, and presented intelligently, with humor.

    • mark William's
      mark William's साल पहले

      Hello dear Shirley Langton

    • Fredrick Pleban
      Fredrick Pleban साल पहले

      Hello how are you doing
      Good meeting you here
      Hope you don’t mind

  • Yog Kawg Hajemah
    Yog Kawg Hajemah साल पहले +3537

    Q: what’s worst then sleeping alone in your bed?
    A: laying next to someone in bed and have no physical interaction at all.

    • Max Smart
      Max Smart 8 दिन पहले

      14 years ago went to a swingers party. Changed our lives! Happily married now for 30 years.

    • Cee Cee Cooper
      Cee Cee Cooper 8 दिन पहले

      @TheKeithlong it’s the absolute worst 😢

    • Cee Cee Cooper
      Cee Cee Cooper 8 दिन पहले

      Facts

    • Annmarie Byars
      Annmarie Byars 2 महीने पहले

      Sleep in seperate rooms! It’s great

    • littlebettyscrafts
      littlebettyscrafts 3 महीने पहले

      @banchara
      Well said !

  • T410ce
    T410ce 3 महीने पहले +11

    When is the last time you saw someone give an hour long talk/ speech from memory? She is clearly an accomplished speaker, this was enjoyable to watch for that reason alone, says so much about the world we live in, where real skills are scarce.

    • forward recording
      forward recording 23 दिन पहले

      Lol they have multiple teleprompters at Ted x. Good speakers practice their speech and use them loosely

  • TheMaghi85
    TheMaghi85 साल पहले +7

    Be positive and have good intentions for marriage. You'll get the right spouse. Don't just end up marrying anyone you feel physically attracted to. That attraction soon ends. Know yourself before you think you know you love someone or atleast know that you need to know yourself and you'll learn to love your spouse even if you two are very different.

  • Nick Dilly
    Nick Dilly 2 महीने पहले +21

    I would like to hear her discuss the effects of weight gain causing a sexless marriage. I look at many relationships around me and people letting themselves go causes the loss of attraction more than anything else and it definately leads to cheating, divorce, etc…

    • Jeannette Garcia
      Jeannette Garcia महीने पहले +6

      Not only loss of attraction, but the person who gained the weight loses the confidence and becomes too self-conscious to even try to please the other. I think constantly working on being fit and staying healthy is definitely important. My mom says you met eachother looking good, so stay oooking good. Just because you are getting older doesn’t mean you cannot look good and have to let yourself go, you can age and still look good.

  • Adam Baldwin
    Adam Baldwin साल पहले +43

    F-ing amen Maureen! Wonderful message and I hope you reach a lot of lonely minds.

  • Smoothontop
    Smoothontop 4 साल पहले +13942

    Better to be single wishing you were married than married wishing you were single - just my two cents.

    • Angus Kong
      Angus Kong महीने पहले

      I'm not married just basically partners for life it seems..I can only trust my love because of our confinement meaning how small the town is and all...All in all...I've said this to her .."I trust you with my life ..I just dont trust you with my heart" I felt that was an easy explanation. Not for her and I dont know why...

    • Austin Gibson
      Austin Gibson महीने पहले

      lord this is so true!!!!!!!!!

    • Sta Ben
      Sta Ben 3 महीने पहले

      Agree 100% with this

    • Justin Carroll
      Justin Carroll 6 महीने पहले

      Disagree 100percent

  • music2sooth
    music2sooth साल पहले +5

    If you think phones and internet are bad, wait until robot 'partners' become a thing. I am single, always wanted to find a soul mate and get married and have kids and so on, but now I think that maybe things aren't so bad after all. I would hate to be around a loveless person, that just drains the life out of you.

  • Stamatis Tsolelis
    Stamatis Tsolelis 4 महीने पहले +2

    Amazing dialogue mrs Maureen!!!You said them so nice and all are the pure truth!!!

  • 7070NOB
    7070NOB साल पहले +29

    Simply amazing advice. Appreciate so much

  • Roy Forgy
    Roy Forgy 3 महीने पहले +6

    I am 72 years old and learned more from this video than I knew. Thank you.

  • Ici Daimon
    Ici Daimon साल पहले +4

    So clever and witty! Really enjoyed the talk and a good way to broach the subject with my partner

  • Mill Sacker
    Mill Sacker साल पहले +16

    re: many of the comments below. all relationships contain unhappiness and disappointments. mother, brother, lover, friend - makes no difference. it’s on you to deal with your OWN discontentment in healthy ways. don’t forfeit the relationship because you can’t handle your OWN state of being. think of how it would feel if your mother disowned you because of something she didn’t like about you. no one should throw away committed relationships for petty selfish reasons of discontent. OWN it, communicate your failings and fears, work on improvement, care for that other person more than just for yourself all the time - care for them unconditionally, recognize and change some of your self-centered expectations, say you’re sorry and mean it. if you can’t do that, stay single. don’t use people and throw them away when things aren’t perfect anymore; it never was to begin with and never will be. ONE EXCEPTION, do not stay with anyone who physically abuses you or others. that’s not about you, and it requires a lot more help than you can provide.

    • Mill Sacker
      Mill Sacker साल पहले

      @Nikki Carlson if i understand you correctly, i certainly agree the husband/wife role is not the same as parent or sibling. but they are all _family_ relationships, and i think deserve an equal level of dedication and commitment. if you decided before marriage that spousal relationships are somehow less than family, or other important relationships in your life, that likely isn't what your spouse committed to. maybe it was, maybe you communicated and established the class/level of relationship and associated expectations between each other beforehand - i hope so for your and your husband's sake. the more conventional or standard definition of the relationship is a permanent bond of love, which is not different from that found in relationships with family. i believe that when you accept you have a choice to leave such a relationship because you feel discontent, the relationship is already over - the bond is broken, regardless of the role that relationship previously filled in your life. if you accepted that before you started a relationship, there wasn't a permanent bond, or family, relationship to begin with.
      regardless, i wish you the very best going forward with kindness, love, and compassion toward each other, wherever forward may lead you.

    • Nikki Carlson
      Nikki Carlson साल पहले

      It's not the same. Can't compare your husband of 28 years to your relatives.

  • John Shipp
    John Shipp 4 महीने पहले +2

    It is a constant battle fighting our natural instincts to have more than one partner. Unfortunately, having one partner for life does not come natural for human beings, but keep fighting 💪

  • Mr. Bob Dobalina • 93 years
    Mr. Bob Dobalina • 93 years 7 महीने पहले +10

    Before marriage you work for your dreams
    Once you get married you work for your partner’s dream
    Once you have children you work for their dreams
    ✌️ one love

  • Menna McDonnell
    Menna McDonnell साल पहले +1085

    Amazing talk. Women also feel the rejection in a relationship. Nobody should stay in a sexless, loveless relationship 🥰🥰

    • David Lench
      David Lench 2 महीने पहले

      @Jeffrey Olufemi That's more than some others lol

    • 💛Lyfesaquarium💛
      💛Lyfesaquarium💛 3 महीने पहले

      💯

    • Shawnda Glover
      Shawnda Glover 3 महीने पहले

      Yes

    • nash nash
      nash nash 4 महीने पहले +4

      I've seen women being in sexless marriage and be happy .no one should be in unhappy or hatefull marriage

    • nash nash
      nash nash 4 महीने पहले

      Nobody should remain in a

  • Chiara Concetti
    Chiara Concetti साल पहले +7

    That was stunning, and expressed something I felt and I was not be able to say. Now I have that words, and feelings have their own names.

    • Mi Mi
      Mi Mi साल पहले

      Chiara you have to reply this

  • ReStory
    ReStory साल पहले +15

    Amazing talk! I have watched her live and just came across this video.

    • Josh Mark
      Josh Mark साल पहले

      How are you doing, my name is Josh Mark and bring you good news.

  • Dr. Robert Neville
    Dr. Robert Neville साल पहले +15

    It's difficult when married but separated but I was taught touching yourself was better than cheating in a hard situation alone

  • daddyteddy85
    daddyteddy85 साल पहले +61

    She is right..A lot of men are going through this but we cant talk about it..If we do then something is wrong with the man
    Men are suffering in painful silence

    • Sarah Robertson
      Sarah Robertson 5 महीने पहले

      Excellent.

    • yaya
      yaya साल पहले

      Amazing how true this is. At least we have anonymity to discuss this somehow. It helps ever so slightly.

    • Jeffrey Beaumont
      Jeffrey Beaumont साल पहले +4

      @Bola ogah Yeah right. More daggers for you to plunge in? Finally got the courage to try it. Was completely humiliated and emasculated in front of our friends. Won't do that again.

    • Bola ogah
      Bola ogah साल पहले +4

      And the amazing thing is.. We'd love to hear form you men and know what you're going through.

  • Christian Greaves
    Christian Greaves 4 महीने पहले +10

    After 25 years with the same person I have to say that it takes two people working to get what both want. I still look at my wife with the love and lust I had in my twenties but it’s completely wasted. We talk about why things are this way every three months for years. She will not be intellectually honest about her feelings. She shows no passion. She does nothing to create romance or intimacy. We’re roommates raising kids. It breeds so much resentment. She’s preventing me from being fulfilled. While I beg her to tell me what she’s missing. Half the time she wants time alone. Some times I just wish I was single. I love her but I wish I could have my 22 year old girlfriend back. I don’t need a roommate.

    • Mk E
      Mk E महीने पहले

      Só true

    • Kells
      Kells 3 महीने पहले +3

      Read Rolle Tomassi's 'The Rational Male' - you can't negotiate intimacy.

    • Paul Simon
      Paul Simon 4 महीने पहले +3

      That's painful to hear, and somewhat close to my own experience. If she is unwilling to discuss and agree for a solution, you have to ask yourself if this is a person you wish to commit your life to. A one-sided relationship is not healthy.

  • Norman Perez
    Norman Perez 9 महीने पहले +13

    This honestly broke my ❤. So much truth here.

  • Red Dwarf
    Red Dwarf साल पहले +105

    When people get married they forget staying lovers is important. They become friends. They don’t make time for themselves away from the kids and work. You can’t be married to your friend. Men and women start to let themselves go, stop trying to seduce each other, and just hang out. You MUST always treat your wife like a girlfriend, not a friend. Women must ALWAYS treat men like your in a date.

    • Atanacio Luna
      Atanacio Luna 11 महीने पहले +4

      I don't like Nevers and always. Enjoy the opportunity to love when you feel like it. Love is not a chore, it's a delight of living.

    • Mikko Rantalainen
      Mikko Rantalainen 11 महीने पहले +1

      Both also need to keep their calendar free enough to include time for the significant other. Nowadays people can easily keep themselves busy all the time if they want to do so.

    • Dwight Dodd
      Dwight Dodd साल पहले +1

      Sage advice,R.D..............................................

  • Grow Live Share Build
    Grow Live Share Build साल पहले +33

    After 34 years married to my teenage sweetheart, our bedroom life is better now than ever!!

    • Grow Live Share Build
      Grow Live Share Build साल पहले +12

      @Mindy T forgiveness and putting your spouses needs above your own. Biblical living. 3 stranded ropes rarely break.

    • Mindy T
      Mindy T साल पहले +2

      Good for you both! Share your secrets.

  • Pablo
    Pablo  2 साल पहले +2837

    I lost my virginity at 18...and I found it again when I got married

  • Kiara Elizaneth De la Cruz Gómez
    Kiara Elizaneth De la Cruz Gómez साल पहले +1

    Muy buena charla (gracias por los subtítulos en español)

  • Merlin Saunders
    Merlin Saunders साल पहले +3

    Quite informative.... some I can relate with. Thanks Maureen.

  • Michael Byrd
    Michael Byrd साल पहले +22

    If you get married, having good, well balanced, polite and helpful kids will make the family an airtight unit. Good kids does wonders for the well being of the parents and their marriage, but one person F's up and the whole family will suffer.

    • Geralt of Rivia __W.W.
      Geralt of Rivia __W.W. साल पहले

      Good Luck - With over 50% divorce rate and kids growing in single mother households. And repeating that cycle over generations.

    • michele walton
      michele walton साल पहले

      Pls

  • Living Smarter
    Living Smarter 3 महीने पहले +19

    I've been married for 17 years. We had our kid 5 years later. Long story short, I've been lonely in my marriage for the last 12 years.
    I'm a great, compassionate guy and a devoted father. I have absolutely no issues with E.D. whatsoever... I mean what I'm a doing wrong here...?
    Up untill seeing this video, I thought our situation was unique and outside the realm of normalcy... This was a real eye-opening story.

    • Los Angeles FTW
      Los Angeles FTW 3 महीने पहले

      Buahahhahah .. im single with 2 girlfriends and currently talking to 1 more plus the baby mama . Will never marry .. 😁

    • Living Smarter
      Living Smarter 3 महीने पहले

      @coffeeguy yeah that's unfortunately not an option. When you have kids, you have to be willing to sacrifice your well-being for their benefit. It's the right thing to do.
      Hang in there bud. I have for many years and constantly get better offers... Once the kids are gone it'll be our time. Good luck!

    • coffeeguy
      coffeeguy 3 महीने पहले +1

      I'm in the same situation bro. Ready to leave but is very hard when you ahve kids

  • Ken Lukasik
    Ken Lukasik साल पहले +12

    Very powerful guidance. THANK YOU!

  • Aussie Nic
    Aussie Nic 4 महीने पहले +1

    I stayed about three years longer in my 20 year marriage than I should have and all that got me was insomnia and a coffee addiction! Put yourself first (I know it's easier said than done) and everything will happen as it's meant to.

    • Scott Anthony
      Scott Anthony 2 महीने पहले

      Hi Aussie! How’re you doing?

  • Wallace Sr Donegan
    Wallace Sr Donegan 7 महीने पहले +2

    God bless her ,and her efforts 👌

  • zig zig 🔮
    zig zig 🔮 साल पहले +1

    I’m married for about 8 years and have a daughter. My marriage is fine since we both are open to each other about stresses and intimacy. I do agree that playing with 📱 devices can be irritating if not enough attention is given tot he partner.
    I can add that physical attraction is important. My husband & I don’t dress like models, but we do try to look descent, have hygiene etc. I have seen some couples, where a partner just lets himself go. Hello

    • zig zig 🔮
      zig zig 🔮 साल पहले

      @Malcolm Tyler Well I did state that both partners have to put an effort not just one. I know women can let themselves go like men as well.

    • Malcolm Tyler
      Malcolm Tyler साल पहले

      A bit sexist. Women also 'let themselves go'.

  • Lillian Loves the Beach!
    Lillian Loves the Beach! 2 साल पहले +515

    I'm 56 years old. Been divorced for over 12 years. After this TED talk, I'm glad I'm single and don't have to deal with the stresses of a sexless marriage!

    • Kaitlin Wilson
      Kaitlin Wilson 2 महीने पहले

      @samuel njenga Obviously he said that

    • Kaitlin Wilson
      Kaitlin Wilson 2 महीने पहले +1

      Same

    • Aunty M
      Aunty M 3 महीने पहले

      @Bald Eagle are you for real? 🤣🤣🤣🤣 not everyone is money hungry. Unless you're talking about Australians 🤣🤣🤣🤣

    • Bald Eagle
      Bald Eagle 3 महीने पहले +1

      stack that cash. wives are a money drain.

    • Alejandro Ceballos
      Alejandro Ceballos 4 महीने पहले

      Thats true ,You are right! I think the same, way as You .

  • zeena Ghaffar
    zeena Ghaffar 4 महीने पहले +2

    Great Ted talk. Misuse of modern technology has highly complicated simple pleasures of life

  • Crashed King
    Crashed King 6 महीने पहले +1

    I am In love with this woman. 56 years old and I hear her as clear as a bell.

  • Kt kT
    Kt kT 3 महीने पहले +19

    Was married for over 20 years- after moving 1,000 miles to her ailing parents' hometown and making great sacrifices to help her help them in every way I could, it became too much and she had no energy for 'us' anymore: after her mother, her father, our child, and her troubles with family. What was supposed to be a temporary situation turned into decades of living in a location that was a slow death for my career. Lost the house where we moved from, and struggled financially the whole time.. Be very careful about how much you put into any relationship- there can come a point where it can become ruinous. She then took 'revenge' by distancing herself from me physically, and chasing every old boyfriend she could find. I am free of this, at last.

    • Kt kT
      Kt kT 3 महीने पहले

      @IcedTea Games Thanks- day by day, I'm moving ahead, taking good care of myself finally.

    • IcedTea Games
      IcedTea Games 3 महीने पहले +1

      @Kt kT I know how you feel as she chased old boyfriends the entire marriage. Find things that make you happy 😃

    • Kt kT
      Kt kT 3 महीने पहले

      @Sophia Smythe I am still in her hometown (she's left!) but more accepting which has helped me find aspects which are good for me- those exist. We are free to choose- set your sail.

    • Sophia Smythe
      Sophia Smythe 3 महीने पहले +2

      Almost 24 years, living in my husbands hometown, which I hate, so I sympathize. He's pretended to be "sleeping" for 12 years. Much luck for a brighter future for you! Here's hoping I can get to mine

  • Prakash Adivarekar
    Prakash Adivarekar साल पहले +15

    People in India should listen to this, very useful speach for Indians

  • Kuphrey Eshiet
    Kuphrey Eshiet 3 महीने पहले +12

    Wow....couples make love 58 times a year? That would be my definition of heaven at this point 🤣🤣

  • Leon Fernando
    Leon Fernando साल पहले +31

    This made me cry. My best for you Maureen

    • Emmanuel Oluwaseun
      Emmanuel Oluwaseun 11 महीने पहले

      yeah! especially the ending sentences.i was really touched

  • Soul Fist
    Soul Fist महीने पहले +2

    My heart goes out to men trapped with a woman who won't touch them
    If it was me I'd just divorce her but you probably have kids or something so you feel like you have to put up with it

  • Lynton Hunter
    Lynton Hunter साल पहले +2

    Many, many thanks Lady Murr this should be taught in our place of worship and colleges even our universities. We have too, too much sexless marriages. Again many thanks 🌷🌹🌹🌼🌼 nuff nuff love 💝💖💖💝 from Jamaica 🇯🇲 Big Up Everytime 👍👍👍👍👍💯💯💯

  • Broken Tooth
    Broken Tooth साल पहले +2076

    It’s destructive. Single life is better than the feeling of being unwanted and neglected.

    • Plen122
      Plen122 3 महीने पहले

      @rudee gruenberg I didn't say always

    • rudee gruenberg
      rudee gruenberg 3 महीने पहले

      @Plen122 not always

    • chris532008
      chris532008 4 महीने पहले

      @Arexodius man shoild v 15 years swnior compatibility roughly 80 percent from same social caste

    • chris532008
      chris532008 4 महीने पहले

      whicjh is 90% of times

    • RRaye Clart
      RRaye Clart 10 महीने पहले

      so true

  • Scott Day
    Scott Day साल पहले +1

    Happened to me by multiple adults growing up and older teenagers. Never said anything because it would have been deemed my fault. So I stayed silent and have been silent. I am 56 next month

  • Felicity McRobb
    Felicity McRobb साल पहले +6

    Wonderfully articulate, engaging and real talk. Maureen is terrific. Thank you.

    • Maureen McGrath
      Maureen McGrath साल पहले

      Very kind of you to say, thank you @FelicityMcRobb

  • Jose Barrera
    Jose Barrera साल पहले +8

    I was stuck in a sexless marriage for 3 years with a guy that he never told me about him what turns him on or what he likes etc so yes talk speak up I want this I love that try keep an open minded that’s it ! Don’t be shy

  • The Jils
    The Jils 3 महीने पहले

    Someone asked a very learned, fairly attractive (especially in her youth) author and professor why she never got married. Her reply: "You marry your best friend." That about sums up her smartness and, at the same time, overall human stupidity of what marriage is really about.

  • Rachel
    Rachel 5 साल पहले +538

    I have a sexless marriage and I'm female, I hate when it's assumed to always be the wife who is denying her husband. it's destroyed me mentally and stolen the best years of my life. I've cried and pleaded and begged and ignored and gone to therapy to try to find out why, what was wrong with me, why doesn't my husband want me. I've had sex once in the last almost 3 years. I hate this life.

    • Paya So
      Paya So महीने पहले

      get a divorce. go on a dating app. you will find a better person in days.

    • Jackie Morris
      Jackie Morris 2 महीने पहले

      It's not you it's him he probably has a side chick somewhere. Or he just doesn't want to be married and don't know how to tell you. A loveless sexless marriage is not a marriage

    • Kenneth Ketchum
      Kenneth Ketchum 3 महीने पहले

      honey, if you are full of that much fire, lose the husband.

    • Dale Neblett-Brown
      Dale Neblett-Brown 3 महीने पहले

      @Pallav Bhattacharyya qqq

    • 💛Lyfesaquarium💛
      💛Lyfesaquarium💛 3 महीने पहले +1

      Get a divorce

  • Robert Greenup
    Robert Greenup 8 महीने पहले +3

    This was absolutely awesome. Thank you so much for sharing

    • UMAR MADAKI
      UMAR MADAKI 8 महीने पहले

      Wha t sA pp👆❤❤

    • UMAR MADAKI
      UMAR MADAKI 8 महीने पहले

      Hello I'm so excited my relationship was fixed back again my ex is back to me we loving and happily together,I got help from a great man who brought us back together......

    • Maureen McGrath
      Maureen McGrath 8 महीने पहले

      Why, thank you! @robert Greenup

  • sharonbocamp
    sharonbocamp साल पहले +2

    And there are a lot of women that I know that stay home and their husbands work. They’re comfortable with it and their husbands are comfortable with it. Of course that’s frowned upon. I think it’s a beautiful thing when a woman and her husband love each other enough for him to recognize that her job at home is invaluable and just as hard as his and therefore she decides to stay home and raise the children just like back in the old days.
    I also know their families who share of the work. Unfortunately you’re right there’s a lot of people who don’t don’t

  • Arun G
    Arun G 11 महीने पहले +22

    "Where there is marriage without love, there will be love without marriage." --- Benjamin Franklin

  • Nobody and whatever
    Nobody and whatever साल पहले +5

    30 years later, I am so happy I got married!!!

  • Scarlett Francesca
    Scarlett Francesca 2 साल पहले +162

    This was absolutely phenomenal!!! I love her knowledge, compassion, sense of humor, authenticity, love and devotion to making this world a better place!!!!! 💞💥💞

    • J.  MAC
      J. MAC साल पहले

      Hi

    • Maureen McGrath
      Maureen McGrath 2 साल पहले +3

      That is so nice of you to say +sasha miranda

  • Susan Jones
    Susan Jones साल पहले +1

    Why is there so much shame and embarrassment even in today's day and age?It is a natural part of a healthy relationship. The sadness is when people are too embarrassed to admit or ask for the help they need.If they did they would realise they are not only not alone but that 98% of the population are pretending everything is great when it isn't!

    • Robert Fisher
      Robert Fisher 10 महीने पहले +1

      Hi Susan I think to be honest with you pride comes into a lot of things .men and women don't want to stand up and say what is wrong .it must feel like they have let there wife or husband or partner down .the only way forward is to be honest with there love 1 and deal with the issues together. I'm sure you are 100% right there are thousands of people out there going through this .

  • Paul Thompson
    Paul Thompson साल पहले +3

    Excellent talk. I hope those in these marriages listen.

  • Bipin Parackal
    Bipin Parackal साल पहले

    Wonderful speech Mam... 😊

  • stip
    stip 8 महीने पहले

    Thankyou equality. You really helped my family not stick together

  • Princess November
    Princess November साल पहले +234

    I'm glad for these talks, I hope lots of people see that they can get educated and talk about anything with their partner, and have a fulfilling relationship. A lifetime companion is such a blessing.

    • Bwete Junior
      Bwete Junior 4 महीने पहले

      @chris532008 hi sweet girl iove so much god bless you have your so beautiful wife god the good to our people in the world 🌍 have me and you

    • Stacy
      Stacy 4 महीने पहले +1

      @chris532008 not sure what you mean. WE have a great relationship, it is not one-sided. Lol

    • chris532008
      chris532008 4 महीने पहले

      @Stacy that s u re take doubt his is same

    • chris532008
      chris532008 4 महीने पहले

      @Cam montreuil no intimacy is available in thiland

    • chris532008
      chris532008 4 महीने पहले

      seldom possible

  • Misty Breeze
    Misty Breeze 2 महीने पहले

    For my marriage the end was sexless for me but not my ex, I caught him messing around with a guy online. Being female I couldn't compete with that, but I never caught the signs.

  • Hellen W
    Hellen W साल पहले +2

    Thanks a lot for this talk..very informative.

  • Reet
    Reet 7 महीने पहले +2

    Loneliness is not related with your surroundings, it's a state of mind, independent of how many people you're with.

    • Sandy Strait
      Sandy Strait 4 महीने पहले

      So all of the lonely people in the comments section are just broken?

  • Joan Ellis
    Joan Ellis साल पहले +17

    My parents had 9 children . My brother , Merle used to say, " I never knew what it was like to sleep alone until I got married".

  • Spanky Harland
    Spanky Harland साल पहले +26

    I never felt so lonely in my life until I got married.....

    • Brent Anthony
      Brent Anthony 4 महीने पहले

      I was single for 10 years between age 20 and 40, rented the basement of a home which turned out to be haunted. (I'm in a sexless marriage now) Nothing has ever compared to the loneliness/anguish I felt in that house alone.

    • N.M
      N.M 4 महीने पहले

      Omg that's so sad to hear