I Was Almost A School Shooter | Aaron Stark | TEDxBoulder

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  • 25/06/2018 को प्रकाशित
  • After growing up in painful, abusive conditions, Aaron Stark was on his way to an atrocity, until simple acts of kindness changed his life forever. What is causing the rise of violence and are our current fears and solutions just making it worse? My name is Aaron stark. I am 39 years old with 4 children, 2 cats, one dog, and a beautiful wife. I am a stay at home dad; my wife is the breadwinner of the family. I am a comic book fan, a pop culture junkie, and a lover of the sciences. I have more knowledge about superheros, pro wrestling, and comedy than anyone really has a right to. After growing up in very abusive and violent circumstances followed by over a decade if personal recovery, I am now a happy family man. I recently shred a very personal story of my triumph over my past, and it has changed my life forever. My mission is to let people know that no matter how dark it may seem, there is light coming. We really are not alone. This talk was given at a TEDx event using the TED conference format but independently organized by a local community. Learn more at www.ted.com/tedx

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  • Aaron Stark
    Aaron Stark 2 साल पहले +25

    Hello everybody! I'm the guy from the video. I just wanted to say thank you. I read the comments (because I'm just a regular guy and who can check out their own ted talk? Lol) and I want to say, from the bottom of my heart, thank you.

  • Imma head out

    What the mother said to Aaron was probably the worst thing I’ve ever heard a mother say to their child. I’m really glad he’s doing better now and I’d like to meet Aaron one day.

  • PCBacklash _

    I don't believe I've EVER heard or seen anything, anywhere, that demonstrates so dramatically the power of a single act of human kindness. What an amazing story!

  • Karen K
    Karen K  +5

    As a retired elementary teacher, I saw small children like this ... as soon as you notified child services, the family hightailed out of the jurisdiction. Poor kids; my heart would break the day they disappeared.

  • jisaboy
    jisaboy  +2

    More people need to listen to this guy. It really shows the other side of tragedies and why tragedies happen.

  • Betorockmetal

    When he said his friend was in the audience too I just couldn't hold my tears, I just cried.

  • Aaron Stark

    Hello. I am the guy in the video.

  • Bojidar Stanchev

    We had a classmate that was a small scrawny guy, really quiet kid, and always just sat in the back and drew something (he was really good). He was teased a lot, I probably had a few jokes at his expense too, but after a year together in school I noticed the teasing was turning into bullying, he had no friends and I remember thinking that he might flip out someday because this is not a sustainable way to live, he's stuck at having to go to school, yet his experience there was miserable. I saw that because I've been in that position before. Talked to a few of my friends to stop picking on him and we decided to stop this completely. Anytime someone would come to bully him, we'd talk to him, if they didn't stop, we'd threaten them with a beating if they continue to bully our small friend. He started hanging out with us all the time. He still almost never talked, but I think he felt safe around us. For the next 4 years he was not bullied anymore. After graduation he went to an art university or something. I wonder where he is today. Hope he's doing alright.

  • Jack Ryan
    Jack Ryan  +690

    He's closing his eyes so much because that pain is still right there...he feels it...he made me feel it

  • Kotuh
    Kotuh  +1

    "We have to give love to the people we think deserves it the least."

  • Alex Tello
    Alex Tello  +227

    His story sounds word for word like what i went through. My mom was the exact same, she tried to kill me when i was 15. But luckily i got out and made a life for myself and instead of turning to darkness i tried to find happiness where i could. Im only 21 and still have a long ways to go but im just grateful everyday im not dead or in jail.

  • spencer gill

    This needs to be played in every school 🏫 and teachers parents and the kids themselves need to do more to help eachother out!!! This man is a legend

  • Aaron Stark
    Aaron Stark 2 साल पहले +70

    Hello. I'm the guy in the video.

  • Someone
    Someone  +223

    “and when your told your worthless enough you will believe it”, this hit home

  • Diana Leal
    Diana Leal  +207

    I feel like this TedTalk becomes more relevant every year. What a blessing it is that Aaron not only found his way, but he understands the importance of people understanding these situations we're often so extremely judgemental in.

  • SunshineFine

    I was friends with the kid that no one else liked. I stood up for him against his bullies even though I’m a very small person. Idk that he would have done something like shooting, but I do know that he had almost no safe place in the world. And that everyone was awful to this kid. His family, classmates, teachers, administrators. Everyone. But I made an effort to include him in my friend group and every class that we had together I sat right beside him. He even came out for my 16th birthday and out of all of my friends he actually gave me the nicest most thoughtful present. He really was a sweet kid and a very talented artist. It’s just no one else took the time to know him. I hope he’s ok now. I hope I was able to leave a positive impact on him.

  • Larson Family

    Shoutout to his friend for saving his life and the lives of countless others. Thank you so much for sharing your story, Aaron. You are an inspiration and it’s so wonderful how you both are spreading love exponentially. I hope you’ll continue to speak on your experience and share it with others- it’s truly amazing and you are absolutely fantastic at doing so.

  • James Kovacic

    Much bigger than just another TED talk. It’s a therapy session for a nationwide epidemic

  • PsyintZ
    PsyintZ 3 साल पहले +32

    Takes a lot of balls to do this. Much respect for this man.

  • thatfootyshirtguy
    thatfootyshirtguy दिन पहले +3

    This guy was failed by everyone and has still come out the other side. Such an inspiration. He deserved so much better. Hope he's living a happy life now.