The art of being yourself | Caroline McHugh | TEDxMiltonKeynesWomen

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  • 14/02/2013 को प्रकाशित
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  • crazyhairedjess
    crazyhairedjess साल पहले +7

    My mom always said, “if you only knew how little time people everyday spend thinking about you, you would stop worrying about it”.


    "Humility is not thinking less of yourself. Humility is thinking about yourself less" So many people need to hear this beautiful line 💙✨

  • JustmeSEVEN
    JustmeSEVEN साल पहले +1

    So in conclusion, to be yourself is to acknowledge your weaknesses and strengths, and accept them, appreciate them, embrace them, and cultivate them. You enjoy someone's advantages rather than seeing it as a threat to your flaws. You don't compare because you know that life is not all about you, you're not the center of other's mind, you just simply live life doing your work and being happy with your relationship with others.

  • amin elmi
    amin elmi साल पहले +2

    She's definitely one of the teachers from the Defence Against the Dark Arts courses

  • Helen S
    Helen S साल पहले +908

    My favourite moment was when she told the story of when she refused to sing, because she’s feeling shy for everyone will be looking at her.

  • Merry-lynn Allison

    I listen to Ted Talks everyday, and I can honestly say this is one of the best. I think I'll listen to this on again. Thank you for this. My Grandmother always said to me, me. People don't think about others as much as you think. They are way to busy thinking about themselves to be thinking about you. What others think about you DOES NOT MATTER. It's what you think about yourself that matters.

  • Lottie Miller
    Lottie Miller 2 साल पहले +5

    I know this was released years ago and no one's going to see this, but i'm 13 and I feel so fortunate to have found this. I'm struggling to understand myself and my feelings and who I am, and this is really really helpful. It reminds me of something my uncle said, something along the lines of "the things you need most come from yourself and only yourself". I rejected it at the time, but now I know it's true. I want to be myself and not an impersonation of what I think people will like, and I know it won't be easy, but it's one of the things I think the universe wants everyone to do no matter where they are. If anyone's reading this, I hope they can recognize themselves for who they truly are and be as individualistic as they can. goodbye

  • Infinite Ripples ♾ Hypnosis & Meditation

    This talk hit so much harder when I realized she was speaking to a group of young girls under 12!!! It fills my heart to think of the impact this had on the girls in the room that day. 🥰 not to mention everyone else who has come across it since! Very powerful speech. 😊💖🙏🏼

  • Beverly Raymond

    I'm so happy that when I was 29, a single mother and attending college for the first time, I decided, I was tired of being someone's daughter, sister, mother, wife and I decided to find out who I am, what I me personally like. I wasn't always easy, but as I found myself, I became happier. I am 56 now, I had decided back then, I don't care what other's think of me, and I taught myself to realize in the grand scheme of things, I am more important to myself than I am to anyone one else. I learned to love myself, worry less about what someone might be thinking about me and I am happy. I taught myself to say, who cares what they think, they don't pay my rent or bills.

  • Tom A To
    Tom A To साल पहले +473

    "We all have our own thing, that's the magic. That everybody comes with their own sense of strength and their own queendom. Mine could never compare to hers and hers could never compare to mine."

  • Rincent Van Uggh
    Rincent Van Uggh साल पहले +929

    In this area I feel quite gifted with autism. My autism prevents me from being able to pretend to be someone else, or to even want to be someone else. It's just not a thing I can think and thought that's made my life hard in some ways (bullying mostly) I'm glad to have the gift of authenticity.

  • Emory Mulick
    Emory Mulick साल पहले +1

    Great speech, but can we also talk about how amazing her outfit is? It’s iconic

  • Nicola P
    Nicola P 6 साल पहले +6

    I can't believe the audience aren't laughing more, she has a wicked sense of humour

  • Marla Singer
    Marla Singer साल पहले +215

    This video found me about a year ago and after watching it I made the active decision to care less about how others percieve me and to like myself more. I've been so much happier ever since

  • Abhi
    Abhi साल पहले +289

    As I listened to her, I felt that she was mentioning most of the things we are taught in India and then she said that she spent a lot of her time in India! 😃. Love from India🇮🇳

  • Gift Chitauro
    Gift Chitauro 14 दिन पहले +3

    Absolutely life changing and interrogative talk of thy self. As a Zimbabwean loved your example .

  • Caitlyn Moloney

    Caroline, you are a gift to humanity. Thank you for this amazing talk, and helping me to find myself. I really appreciated the line: "I have spectacular disregard for where my abilities end and spectacular disregard for being the center of attention. In fact, I have never been the center of attention. You’re the center of mine." That is a powerful line. A beautifully constructed speech.

  • Gabriela Alencar

    This is the most beautiful talk I've ever watched. Such rich lessons, such a soothing tone. And she looks stunning. One can see her life is her message alright. I'm really grateful for all the plataform/channel/everyone that made possible for a girl in Brazil with a cellphone on her hand to receive this amount of wisdom from a stranger. Thank you.

  • Raysavedtheday
    Raysavedtheday 2 साल पहले +3

    “Humility is not thinking less of yourself but thinking of yourself less.” - Amazing

  • Екатерина Чуракова

    "Since that day, I have never been the center of attention. You're the center of mine. And that a very different feeling."